February 4, 2013 at 11:56 am

The Sunday Experiment – Balance

The Sunday Experiment – Balance

A month into the Sunday Experiment and I realize how truly fucked up my head is.

It is HARD for my brain to take a break from writing, thinking about writing, worrying about writing, etc. for even one day. Even without checking email (which I didn’t do for the second Sunday in a row), Facebook, and Twitter, I caught myself obsessing over writing-related things several times throughout the day. I had to forcibly move my mind away from it, which tells you how how of control – and out of balance – my life has become.

Basically, this frog is better at relaxing than I am.

I was halfway through my yoga routine – something I usually LOVE – when I realized that I just wasn’t feeling it. I was trying to hurry and get into the shower so I could have lunch with the kids and watch The French Connection (something Kenneth and I had planned to do). So why was I forcing myself to do yoga ON MY DAY OFF?

I had to consciously give myself permission to skip it, because while I usually see it as a critical part of my everyday routine, taking one day a week off IS OKAY. Right?!

Which is why the Sunday Experiment has made it clear that time off is only a small part of the problem. The real problem is one of balance.

In short; I’m out of whack. And I haven’t even realized it, because somewhere along the line, out of whack became normal. So I’ve decided to turn the Sunday Experiment into a year-long quest for balance, focusing on one component every month. January was about giving myself one day a week completely away from work and technology and the demands thereof.

In February, I’ll focus on Mindfulness, because I’ve realized what a huge problem it is for my noisy mind. I’ll post more about that later this week. In the meantime, I’d love to hear about the things that make balance difficult for you to obtain. Is it juggling work with family? Over-scheduled kids? Getting enough sleep? Eating right when you’re busy?

Share your challenges in the Comments section and I’ll choose ten issues that speak to me, too – one for each month March through December.

We’re going to make balance our bitch. In a Zen sort of way, of course.

<3

 

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6 thoughts on “The Sunday Experiment – Balance

  1. Savvy says:

    “In short; I’m out of whack. And I haven’t even realized it, because somewhere along the line, out of whack became normal.” I couldn’t agree more. My whole life feels out of whack right now. I don’t even KNOW why. Coffee helps 😉

    1. MichelleZink says:

      Savvy, as a mother to two young children, a writer, and a wife, can you share some of the things that make it hardest to keep balanced? Not to put you on the spot or anything. Lol!
      <3

  2. Rebecca says:

    I think “out of whack became normal” is the epitome of life nowadays, for so many people. I’m changing things, but in a different way. I have a cell phone, but no longer use it. I find I’m happier when I’m not constantly checking for messages, texts, and updates. I’ll keep it for emergencies, but now find it bothersome. I’m slowly drawing away from social media, because it really doesn’t make me feel good. I’ve finished my book and am going through the critiques. This is my goal and I’m devoting my attention to it, instead of social media. I’m taking care of ailing parents and am a single mother to a sixteen year old boy. Life is hard and the little respite I can find is appreciated all the more. I’m so glad you’re doing this Sunday experiment, Michelle. It feels good to know that life isn’t all wrapped up in electronics. :)Peace!

    1. MichelleZink says:

      Sounds like we are in much the same place, Rebecca. We all need a respite now and then, but now we have to TAKE it, because if we don’t, things just spin slowly out of control.

      And trust me; focusing on the writing is the very BEST thing you can do. I belonged to a couple of really negative writing forums when I was trying to get published, and I finally realized if most of the people there spent half as much time actually writing as they did whining about the odds of success, they’d have a much better chance of reaching their goals. I made a decision to keep my head down, tune out the noise, and keep writing, and it definitely paid off.

      But even now, I have to remind myself of that from time to time. Talking about writing (and this includes social networking) is NOT writing.

      Sending you tons of good mojo for your book!
      <3

      MZ

      1. Rebecca says:

        I don’t like that we’re in much the same place as it’s not a good place to be, but it’s nice to know I’m not alone.

        Writing is the one thing that helps me stay sane. I’m sure you’ve heard that before, but it’s true. I can escape and live in a world where I have control. It’s a beautiful feeling. I’ve joined and then deleted so many writer websites. I know where I’m going and I’m not going to sit by and coddle those who want to make excuses. That’s exactly that I’m doing – tuning out and making sure my work is the best it can possibly be.

        Thanks for the mojo, it’s much appreciated and welcome <3

        1. MichelleZink says:

          That’s true, but I do feel like I’m getting it under control.

          And I feel the very same way about writing. I think I’d die without it. You’re on the right track!
          <3

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